As kids, many of us are taught about trying our best and keeping our commitments. We are taught that it’s bad to give up. And for many reasons, this is a good lesson to follow us into our adulthood. However, for many other reasons it can be a very bad lesson! Sometimes, it is simply time to leave…the job, the relationship, the living arrangement, the party. Whatever it may be, here are 5 signs it’s time to leave.
1. You are changing a little too much.
Change is part of life, and it can be a really great and positive thing. But if you are suddenly becoming an entirely different person with different hobbies, different social circles, and different everything, it may be time to evaluate if you are morphing into someone else. And more importantly, if you are morphing into a person you want to be. Check-in with yourself to make sure you don’t lose yourself! It is a much harder conversation to have after the fact.
2. You feel DRAINED.
Our bodies have a funny way of trying to tell us things when our brains can’t seem to connect the dots. Are you feeling a little more tired and a little less energetic to take on the day? Like, no matter how much sleep you get you’re still tired. Or, you are not getting enough sleep to begin with! This is our bodies making us physically feel that something isn’t right. Take a pause and really listen to what it’s trying to say.
3. You have a major tude.
As in, attitude. We all have it sometimes, but yours just won’t seem to go away! You are irritable over everything and the worst part is, you probably think it’s perfectly legitimate. If people around you who care about you are noticing a more negative vibe, try to choose reflection over defensiveness.
4. You are on the verge of a mental breakdown…constantly.
Usually, the step after attitude is mental breakdown. This is because an attitude is a protective measure our minds take to feel like we are in control. Once we realize that this is not at all the case, the mental breakdown begins. If you have lost so much control over your life that you have resorted to spontaneous crying, it is likely time to put yourself first and leave anything that continuously contributes negatively.
5. Last but not least, you are not shining.
You are the opposite of shining, feeling like your worst self. You deserve every opportunity to be the best version of yourself. So if something is pulling you away from that, you need to be honest with yourself and consider if you should pull away. You may feel trapped and it may take time and courage to leave, but if leaving is going to free you to be who you want to be, it is time and courage well spent.